Hey Guys….Grow a Spine for Your Relationship
I found this article at Psychology Today that I found very interesting. New Study Shows Being Hen-pecked Does Not Work
“…that found that appeasement by the male is not the way to relational peace in our time.
The Creative Conflict Resolution study found that 68% of men preferred to say, “yes dear” or “uh huh” instead of sharing their true feelings to please their quarreling mate. The Arizona study found that girlfriends and wives are not fooled by this capitulation and that this “no mas” defense actually antagonizes and frustrates these women, who then have a lower opinion of the relationship because there is no real satisfactory resolution of the conflict.
Wait….you mean that women really want men to be (gasp)…men? The article goes on to state that cooperation is very important to the relationship. Umm…not sure if cooperation is the right word. How about leadership?
“These men are instead choosing a relationship style based on ceding control of the romance to their wives and girlfriends.”
Other parts of this article go on to, of course, blame this on men and just try to reinforce the “enlightened companionate model which emphasized men and women as co-equals.”
“Unfortunately in the last century many American men abandoned honest courtship and began exploiting a gaping weakness in the companionate system.”
Regardless, a few small nuggets can be gleaned from the article.